An Essential Component to Healthy Relationships and Happy Lives
Solid boundaries are an essential component to healthy relationships and happy lives. However, it is an unfortunate truth that many of us have not yet acquired the necessary skills to set and maintain healthy boundaries. Indeed, for many of us, unhealthy boundary issues are at the root of our problems. For example, a serious violation like abuse is traumatic and can lead to a host of mental health issues. The shaky boundaries that result will be a source of stress, financial trouble, depression, anxiety, and more until we learn how to firm them up. On the other hand, if our boundaries are too rigid, we risk cutting ourselves off from the world to sit in the darkness of isolation.
What Are Healthy Boundaries?
Healthy boundaries are the emotional, mental, and physical limits we set to establish our identity and to protect ourselves from being violated by others. Furthermore, as those with unhealthy boundaries often find themselves crossing the boundaries of others, they protect those we come in contact with and ensure that we treat them with respect. Healthy boundaries mean knowing to take responsibility for your actions and emotions while not taking on those responsibilities in others. But how do we know if the boundaries we’re setting are healthy or not?
Getting to Know Ourselves
Knowing where our boundaries are and where they should be means knowing ourselves. That means getting in touch with ourselves and learning who we are and it’s a life-long process. How do we act in relationships? How do we treat others and how do we let them treat us? Do we go through intensely hot and cold periods in relationships, breaking up and making up constantly? Does it seem that we’re always falling in love with anyone who shows us attention or helps us? Do we feel that we always need to fix others’ problems or “save” others? These are all signs of unhealthy boundaries. Unfortunately, it can often be difficult to see these problems within ourselves.
Getting a Wider Perspective
Our first-person perspective also keeps us from seeing ourselves as others see us. As a result, we have plenty of blind spots when it comes to our interactions with the world. An open and honest conversation with trusted members of our support network, asking them what they see can be illuminating. Alternatively, a good therapist can help us through the outstanding issues of our past and present and help us determine what our needs are. This will go a long way in helping us determine where our boundaries need to be.
A Path to Freedom
Learning how to set and maintain healthy boundaries is just one of the skills our clients learn at Creative Care. Our fully equipped staff personalizes our co-occurring treatment services and base them on your individual needs. Those services may include:
- Family or couples therapy
- Art therapy
- Nutrition therapy
- Equine therapy
- Yoga and other relaxation therapy
We work as a team to create your ideal recovery plan. If you or someone you love is struggling with mental health issues, call Creative Care today at 855-980-0869 to set out on your path to freedom.