Am I enabling my loved one?

1. Have you made excuses for your loved one's unacceptable behaviors or bad judgments? Such as covering up their hangover by calling in sick for them? Or dismissing your teenager's drug use as "just a phase?" :

Always

Sometimes

Never



 

2. Have you ever withheld the truth from a teacher, a friend, or the police in order to cover for a loved one's mistake?:

Always

Sometimes

Never



 

3. Do you take responsibility for tasks your loved one is, or should be capable of performing himself? Such as routinely doing laundry for an adult child? Cleaning his apartment? Paying her bills?:

Always

Sometimes

Never



 

4. Do you hold your tongue in order to avoid an argument because you fear they will love you less or leave you or abuse you? :

Always

Sometimes

Never



 

5. Do you feel a sense of guilt when you assert yourself?:

Always

Sometimes

Never



 

6. Do you experience an almost chronic anger that your loved ones don't appreciate all that you sacrifice on their behalf?:

Always

Sometimes

Never



 

7. Are you more invested in the needs of others than you are in what you might want? Such as doing something to keep the peace even though you didn't want to?:

Always

Sometimes

Never



 

8. Do you identifiy yourself as a "people pleaser?" :

Always

Sometimes

Never



 

9. Do you have difficulty identifying your emotions and communicating them to others?:

Always

Sometimes

Never